Thus for me, Astrology plays a key role in keeping my heart open because it allows me to identify and separate the elements of my personality from my consciousness. It also gives me greater compassion towards others. When I worked at Ernst & Young I worked as part of a team of senior HR managers. One of my closest friends worked with me. We also worked together with a friend who became jealous of our closeness and in revenge she told our director that we were plotting to make decisions about the department thus undermining him. This was not true and my close friend was so hurt and angry that he transferred to another part of the firm. He was bemused that I was able to still relate to and keep my heart open to our friend who had done this to us. I thought about why that was the case and I realised that it was down to Astrology. I knew she was Sun-Mars conjunct in Taurus opposite Neptune in Scorpio and that it was a repeating pattern for her that she would compete and then when she felt unable to compete she would undermine people through “black magic” (passing on negative, heart-constricting gossip). I recognised that I could be anyone, I could probably even be a chair and she would act the same way, she was simply playing out her chart; in many ways it was not personal even though it felt so. It enabled me to keep my heart open and even to be able to help her see her pattern (chart) playing out.
Monthly Archives: December 2011
So now the Euro crisis is set to continue (perhaps as those with a knowledge of Astrology would have anticipated). Last week I was in both Paris and Frankfurt, this week in Milan and the Czech Republic. Whilst in Paris, I spoke to a Senegalese taxi driver. I shared my thoughts on Europe and was interested to find him agreeing vehemently with them – I liked him a lot (I find I tend to like people who vehemently agree with me!). In a previous blog I mentioned that I thought that Europe had spoilt the smaller nations (Greece, Ireland, Portugal etc.) like a bad parent who indulges their children. As parents we had tempted them with money for infastructure projects on the promise that it would help accelerate their growth. The catch was that they needed to provide half the funding for these projects. They could not resist the temptation of the money and bankrupted themselves in the process. But who do they owe the money to? The answer is the European banks; for Greece France owns fifty percent of the debt, Germany over thirty percent and the UK around fourteen percent. So everyone has been using (usury used to be the term for lending money to others to make profit) everyone else. The chickens have well and truly come home to roost. What is the solution to all of this? I am conscious that the response of the EU currently has been to increase and centralise control. This is the response of many a parent when they feel their children are misbehaving (interestingly many insightful television programmes have helped highlight the fact that it is usually the parents who are creating or exacerbating the issue and need to change in such situations). This response of centralising power has critical dangers. If you want others to grow and take responsibility but they fail to do so, or act irresponsibly, then the natural response is to withdraw responsibility. Unfortunately, often the result of this is to further deepen the problem. When someone takes control over us they assume a parental position. Our instinctive reaction to this is usually either to be “good” and comply or to rebel and be more irresponsible. Either response re-inforces a dependent and childlike relationship.
Working as chairman of our local Steiner school, I noticed in trying to change the school and address some of the issues that it had, we, as governors, ended up taking greater and greater responsibility. Furthermore, the more we took responsibility the less that staff seemed to. The result was a continuing rift between the governors and the teaching staff. This seemed endemic, as it played out at other Steiner Schools and had been the case long before I was part of the school. I noticed after some time that the way the administrator and the governors talked about the staff was as if they were errant children and indeed they seemed to behave more and more like errant children. At the time there was a plan to restructure the management of the school which the governors were enthusiastic about implementing. However, the staff rebelled and insisted that they wanted to continue to implement the approach that they had always had (which had never worked successfully). The result was a schism between the Governors and teachers running the school. The temptation on the part of the governors was to enforce the change. However, I recognised that to do this would perpetuate the sense of “us” and “them”. Consulting the I-Ching I received the top line of Hexagram 5 which talks about “even happy turns of fortune come to us in a form that at first seems strange”. It certainly did seem strange. Initially the teaching staff were very aggressive and determined to seize power and dictate how things would be. They set about fighting us (the governors) for power. However, I could see that whilst initially it was difficult and appeared to signal collapse and destruction – the adminstrator was sacked from her role and destructive oppositions were created with the parents and the support staff, I realised that something else was at play. I realised it was a test or learning for dealing with power. If we held on to it as Governors, or even fought for it, then it would be a fight without end and everyone would be suffer. If we acted through force or power then we signalled that our aim or purpose was power. Life has a wonderful sense of humour and the person leading the teachers at the time, and full of revolutionary zeal was a man whose surname was Power! It was clear to me that the lesson was about how to handle power (when you begin to see how the Universe is working, it is amazing how much it gives the game away)! So I decided that my test was to give away power and go with this new emerging energy. I started by apologising for our part in the situation as governors and for the fact that we had tried to push a change programme on the school – my fellow governors were not too happy about this and considering whether to assert their authority and try to force through the change but luckily for me they were willing to trust me. So instead we gave away power to the teaching staff and let them win the fight. Also, I could see that this move on the part of the teachers was exactly the responsibility we had been looking for. It might not be coming out in the form we desired but it was the energy we had bemoaned the lack of. I had to work like I had never worked before to hold any frustration and instead be determined to work on supporting the teachers in taking responsibility, but I realised that unless someone transformed the oppositions and negative emotions then nothing would change. Since I had no control over anyone else and it was not my responsibility to dictate how others behaved I could only work on myself. My fellow governors mostly followed suit. After 18 months, I remember them saying to me that they now felt they would not choose anyone other than our Mr Power to be the Chair of College (the teaching body managing the school). This was in direct contrast to 18 months earlier! It is now some six or seven years since these events. The school had an Ofsted inspection and one of the elements that received the biggest commendation was the very positive working relationship between the governors and the teachers. The company that ran the inspection was one set up particularly with Steiner schools in mind and they were intrigued to know how we had got round the division between teachers and governors that seemed to bedevil every school. To this day, one thing that is continually referred to by both the teaching staff and the governors is the fantastic working relationships between us; they talk about the fact that there is so much trust that they feel as if it is just one body. Our mutual respect and affection for each other is very high and the relationship seems so natural no-one can really understand how it was ever different. This experience was a wonderfully rich learning experience for me. It took very hard work to transform the opposition into union but I realised it was what the I-Ching meant by the hexagram Work on What Has Been Spoiled.
The situation of the EU appears to be Work on What has Been Spoiled (Hexagram 18). It is not a mistake that the EU is in the position that it is in, it is a lesson which has to be worked on consciously to understand the reasons and take responsibility for the situation. Taking greater centralised power does not seem like it is going to work. It feels like King Canute trying to hold back the waves. There is a model which I have worked with a great deal over the years which sees three stages of development in creating relationships, teams and organisations. The three stages are inclusion (or dependence), assertion (or independence) and collaboration (interdependence). To get to interdependence you have to work through dependence and independence. The key is that interdependence includes dependence and independence. It is the independence which is always tricky for people because Saturn (structure and control) is an uneasy bedfellow with Uranus (independence). In myth Kronos (Saturn) cut off his father Ouranos’s (Uranus) testicles. Symbolically this represents the way that structure and control over time disempower new fresh energies. Applying greater control, I fear, is unlikely to elicit greater responsibility. The danger is that democracy is having to be bypassed. Most large conglomerations of power seem prey to falling into corruption and bureaucracy and in the end lose the dynamic and fresh independent energy needed to sustain them – think of the Eastern Bloc and Russia, think of Rome etc. So the key appears to be finding the balance between independence and dependence in order to get to interdependence (the conscious and voluntary choice to co-operate from a position of independence). An analogy a friend of mine uses for Europe is that of living with one’s neighbours. We may get on very amicably with our neighbours but this relies on the freedom we have to choose to co-operate from a position of independence. Were we to try to share a bank account with our neighbours, the likelihood is that we would quickly find ourselves in many fights and unhappiness (blocks of flats which share costs rarely seem to do so amicably). The I-Ching in the hexagram The Family (number 37) states that the family is the basis for all society. In line 3, where it is describing conflicts within the family, it says that “the wise thing is to build strong dikes within which complete freedom of movement is allowed each individual”.
So we are experimenting with our interdependence and with groups. Not surprising given the movement to the age of Aquarius. It is going to take time; probably hundreds and thousands of years, to crack this one.
And so finally, back to the Senegalese taxi driver – where does he fit into things? I was thinking about King Canute holding back the waves and the fight there is between a human’s conception of their power and what they deem important and Nature. Europe is a human construct. Their are no physical boundaries which define Europe. Indeed no-one seems terribly clear what is included in Europe exactly – is Russia part of Europe? The EU is considering including Turkey as part of Europe. When I was in Milan, I was told a joke by one of my Italian coachees – with the Hong Kong stock exchange everyone knows it is backed by the might of China, with the New York stock exchange everyone knows it is backed by the might of America, without Europe, what is the London stock exchange backed by? The answer – Surrey! The message was that London needs Europe and many people have described the UK as a pygmy without it. This intrigued because I began to see as I went round Europe that the main arguments in favour of Europe were largely based on fears connected to power. Indeed in Italy and France the sentiment was very clear, that we needed to hold together in these difficult times to protect each other. The analogy I was given by one Italian was that it was like being on a lifeboat in a shipwreck in raging seas with people drowning around you. You have to look after yourself and hold together with others to prevent being taken down by those less fortunate. I didn’t like this image, I replied that I would rather try and save as many people as I could and if I died then so be it, better that than live at someone else’s expense. When I was talking to the Senegalese taxi driver this is what we were discussing. I shared with him my thought that I didn’t like the exclusive nature of club Europe which sought to create barriers towards other nations. It is a self-protective mechanism. The argument always seems to be one of a herd mentality – you can’t leave the herd, you will be isolated and die without the protection of the herd. This instinctive way of acting is based on fears and suspicion. It is “us” against the great “them”. It occurred to me that the notion of Europe is that of an elite club and is against the flow (King Canute’s waves) of our human hearts. There is a historic flow of interaction and trade between France and northern African countries like Senegal, there is also a flow of interaction and trade between the UK and the old commonwealth. I wonder if Europe denies our global interdependence and seeks to create a mutual dependence within a clique? I think maybe we all need each other during difficult times like this and I certainly feel that there is an opportunity for the European countries who have benefited and in previous centuries exploited other countries to support and help them. My Senegalese taxi driver liked this idea. He felt that Europe was an exclusive club and it was time for it to reach out rather than trying to protect itself and exploit others. Creating a European super state doesn’t feel like doing that to me. So perhaps Europe needs to break down so that every country can enjoy it’s independence but choose consciously to be part of a globally interdependent world where it is supported and helped. Europe was originally created to prevent the disasters of another World War, in particular to prevent France and Germany ever being in violent opposition to each other. Perhaps it is time for everyone to be included in this? Perhaps the blockage that Europe represents to the Global flow needs to be washed away to achieve this? When we are friends with people only our jealousy (based on fear) tells us that they are not allowed to be friends with others and must exclusively be friends with us. I would like every country to be free to be friends with every other country. It usually means we end up losing friends if we can’t share them with everyone. I would like every country to be free to be friends with every other country. In this respect I leave the last word to William Blake:
He who binds to himself a joy
Doth the winged life destroy,
But he who kisses the joy as it flies
Lives in eternity’s sunrise.
This afternoon I returned from Dubai after spending 2 days coaching for one of my clients. I do not particularly like Dubai as a place, the artificiality and the focus on materiality and luxury do not appeal to me greatly. This time, though, I took more time to understand the background to Dubai and its phenomenal growth. It was intriguing to look at how fast it has grown and to see how it has positioned itself to be a hub between the East and West and also the North and South. What made me sad was chatting to the taxi drivers (mostly Indian) who drove me. One in particular, who was not unusual, had come from Chennai in India and had been working in Dubai for seven years to send money back home to his wife and children. He aimed to stay another two or three years (although I noted that everyone I spoke to aimed to stay another two or three years before returning home).
My instinctive reaction was that this was not something that would be acceptable in England. As usual, Life was listening. On returning to the UK, I had an hour and a half to talk to the taxi driver driving me home from Birmingham airport who explained to me how many flights now came into Birmingham and Manchester Airports and how the Emirates was paying for an extension of the runway at Birmingham airport in order to allow the Boeing 780s to land (these planes carry up to 600 passengers). At Manchester, he explained there were 3 flights per day to Dubai. I then spent time (as I love to do) chatting to the taxi driver about his life and sharing mine. He explained that he had become a taxi driver when his business selling small gifts in offices had gone bust. He described how he now worked on average 75 hours a week. I asked him why he worked so many hours and he explained that he was only paid the minimum wage of £5.50 an hour which had just been put up to £6.10 an hour and this was the only way to make it pay. Suddenly I saw how cleverly Life had caught me out again – here was an exact parallel of what I had seen in Dubai and it was the Emirates that was providing the work! I wanted to know more, curious to understand his black hole game and what had brought him to this point. He explained that the accountants for the business had made an error on VAT which landed them with a bill for £20,000 that they could not afford. He and his wife carried on trying to survive but reached a point where they realised that they were completely overwhelmed with debt. They had used their credit cards to their maximum, they were missing payments on their mortgage and so on. He said that he turned to his wife and said they were going to have to give up and ask for help. So he consolidated the debt. It was £120,000. He explained that it was going to take until he was 75 until the debt was paid off, however, they got to keep the house which was important to his wife and didn’t have to declare themselves bankrupt this way. My heart went out to him and I was busy thinking of schemes whereby I could anonymously help him out by paying off some of his debt. However, as we talked, he explained that many of his fellow drivers complained about how they were treated by their company but his response was that it depended how you viewed it (something we had been discussing in terms of what you could control in your life) and he would always challenge the other drivers on what other job they could do where they could paid to drive a top class Mercedes Benz around all day. As he explained more about his background it emerged that his father had been a relatively successful stockbroker and he had come from a reasonably well-off background. He explained that his father, though, had spent his whole Life speculating and trying various schemes to make money and he had inherited this. I reflected to him, that perhaps his situation had freed him from this and he agreed. He reflected and said that his wife had a good job which paid reasonably well, he got to keep the money above a certain level to pay off some of the debt and they continued to live in their house. In many ways he had all he wanted and was freed from the scheming, worry and fear about money. He was quite surprised to realise that he was probably more content now than he had been at any stage of his life and agreed wholeheartedly with me that money was relative – the problems did not really change, they scaled up or down. We talked about the Emirates who were fabulously wealthy and speculated that probably the less wealthy Emirs probably felt poor and jealous of the wealthier ones, that the Sheik of Abu Dhabi (the captial Emirate) probably got very anxious and jealous when Dubai expanded and grew so rapidly and he no doubt feared he would miss the boat and be outdone by his fellow Emir.
I related to him that when I was in my teens (we were not particularly well-off when I was young) I asked my father who continually worried about money, how much money it would need for him to stop worrying about money (I was nothing if not a precocious child!). I was stunned because he had an instant reply – £250,000. At that point you join the world of the rich where money makes money he said. It was because this was the amount at the time that you needed to be a “name” at Lloyds of London (before the crash when they were all bankrupted!). Some years later with inflation and property house rises I realised my Dad was probably worth £250,000 so I asked him “are you happy now? Are you secure?” (what it is to have kids eh?). “No” he replied. Given inflation and other factors he explained that the figure would now be a million pounds. I waited patiently and when my Dad retired he sold his business and with a small inheritance and the rise in property prices I realised he had again exceeded his goal for security. I asked him again if he had done it. He told me that now all he was doing was worrying about it running out and the fact that mother was still young and that he realised he was never going to be free of it no matter how much he earned. It struck me, having inherited his anxiety about money, that no amount of change in his external situation would change anything if it was going to change it would require a change internally in attitude.
When I got back home, I could feel an interesting after effect of the trip to Dubai. I had flown Business class, I had stayed in a hotel with a sauna and swimming pool in the sunshine and come back in a chauffeur driven car (free courtesy of Emirates airline). There was just the first traces of being seduced by the luxury lifestyle. When I had landed I had been noticing the first signs of this and I was reminded of the line in the I-Ching about someone when he is established becoming arrogant and luxury loving. I sat down at my messy desk in my ramshackle house and opened up my emails. There was an email from one of my clients about my trip to Paris the following week. It detailed that a number of people couldn’t see me and one of the main people I was coaching did not want to see me. My heart sank with paranoia and anxiety. I turned to the I-Ching to consult it and received the first and 4th lines of 10 (Conduct) in a situation of 59 (Dispersion). The first line says
A man finds himself in an altogether inferior position at the start. However, he has the inner strength that guarantees progress. If he can be content with simplicity, he can make progress without blame. When a man is dissatisfied with modest circumstances, he is restless and ambitious and tries to advance, not for the sake of accomplishing anything worth while, but merely in order to escape from lowliness and poverty by dint of his conduct. Once his purpose is achieved, he is certain to become arrogant and luxury-loving.
Arrogant and luxury loving! The fourth line was the contrast of someone hesitating and uncertain but
having the inner power to carry it through. I wrote to the individual who apparently did not want to see me and said that the message I had received had made me anxious, was it that he wasn’t going to be around or was it that he didn’t want to meet up with me again; that I didn’t mind if it was this but it would be useful to know why. I received an immediate response saying he had not known whether he was going to be in Paris and that he had already confirmed a time since the message had been sent – and also reassuring me not to worry! As I received this, I suddenly twigged what Life had been up to. Careful it was saying, you get carried away and start getting comfortable and certain about anything and you are going to trip up, so here is a little shock to remind you. What I love about understanding Life in this way is that as soon as I understood what Life was saying and the I-Ching so clearly any anxiety disappeared and I could laugh and see the message. In this respect I am always reminded of Ram Dass seeing his guru in different guises coming to trip him up and test him – even coming disguised as a microphone that he didn’t want – “I’ll get you, you phony holy you”. Life can catch us all just when we are tempted, I think it loves to trip us up whenever we succumb to hubris or we relax and get complacent.
(The author is currently absent in Paris being tested regularly and being reminded that he is in a precarious position and knows nothing – so that’s ok then!).
One of the concerns that many people have about Astrology is the notion of fate. People find the notion that we do not have free will uncomfortable. Similarly, modern science is very uncomfortable with this notion and the notion that there are universal laws applying to human beings or to life other than the mechanistic laws of science. Yet what if all of these are one in the same? Scientists prefer to think that life is randomly generated and most people prefer to think of themselves as in control of their lives and choices.
A recent article in The New Scientist detailed research into the world’s financial network and uncovered the fact that less than one percent of the network of companies were able to control forty percent of the entire network. It went on to say that “One thing won’t chime with some of the protestor’s claims: the super-entity is unlikely to be the intentional result of a conspiracy to rule the world. “Such structures are common in nature,” says Sugihara….The Zurich study…”is strong evidence that simple rules governing TNCs (Trans National Corporations) give rise spontaneously to highly connected groups”. Or as Braha puts it: “The Occupy Wall Street claim that 1 per cent of people have most of the wealth reflects a logical phase of the self-organising economy.”
If each individual is a fully independent and autonomous being making their own choices and following their own direction, how is it possible that their collective actions are mirroring natural systems? Recent research on the brain takes this even further: “With contemporary brain scanning technology, scientists in 2008 were able to predict with 60% accuracy whether subjects would press a button with their left or right hand up to 10 seconds before the subject became aware of having made that choice” (Wikipedia).
This would suggest that individuals and collective systems are subject to natural laws or systems that play out. If this is true at the level of organisms, individuals and the collective, it would seem clear that it is also true beyond the earth, in the solar system. Astrology is a system which describes these natural laws or systems at an individual and collective level with reference to their manifestation at the larger level of the solar system. Taoism described these laws as The Tao – the eternal nature of things and Plato described them in terms of a priori existing forms. Whilst modern science does not believe that there is sapient life more intelligent than human beings, this might simply be a failure of conception or perception. In his book, Lila – An Inquiry into Morals, Robert Pirsig (of Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance fame), posits the idea that such being exist in many forms, some of the most common being cities. Most cities have a lifespan long beyond that of their individual cells (human beings, animals etc.). Indeed the individual cells all die out and yet the city continues. No one cell is capable of conceiving the complexity of running the entire city yet it continues to run. This is not dissimilar to the individual cells in our bodies, all of which die out and are replaced within our lifetime without us ceasing to exist. We have personalities and preferences and what is more we have a consciousness that exists and is able to conceive of itself. Yet if you were able to interrogate the individual cells in our body and suggest to them that there was this mystical “Joe Bloggs” which was conscious and could conceive of the whole entity and reflect on it’s actions and purpose and loved and cared for it all, the individual cells would no doubt think you deluded and ask you for the proof. It would be difficult to supply and no doubt there scepticism would be compounded.
This does not mean that this consciousness does not exist but it clearly has an interdependent relationship with the cells and the body. Cities die if all the individuals die out and leave them. Human beings cease to be conscious if you kill them. We have come up with many descriptions for this collective consciousness that might exist at the level of the collective consciousness – Multiple Gods, Tao etc. etc. Not to be able to point to it consciously (as we still cannot in human beings) does not mean that it does not exist. Anima Mundi – cosmic mind, seems to describe this awareness aptly.
Another recent New Scientist article described an experiment done into modelling wolves hunting in packs. This modelling had demonstrated that if you created a simple command for Wolves to keep a certain distance apart from each other, then it replicated the way that Wolves can appear to successfully drive animals into an ambush by other members of the pack. The implication was that wolves might not be nearly so intelligent or capable of strategy as we had previously supposed. If this implication is accurate it would only be logical to think that humans are clearly not that intelligent since their financial systems simply follow natural laws similar to simple organisms!
What if it is paradoxical. What if both exist at the same time, ie. that it is all fated and yet we have free-will and choice? I have lived my life on this basis that everything is fated (as the I-Ching says, “you cannot lose what truly belongs to you even if you throw it away”) and that also I have complete freedom and choice and am responsible for all my actions and this seems to work very well. In the same way, I suspect that all the people in the financial world were all making individual choices for which they were responsible and yet it was always going to work out according to natural laws. Perhaps the point of the game is that we are the agents for the anima mundi (the cosmic mind) and our free will is important. If, as the experiments on the brain back in the 1970s showed, consciousness operates 0.5 seconds behind reality and we act and then become conscious rather than choosing consciously and then acting, it suggests that the role of consciousness is as an observer. Perhaps our role is to be the consciousness function for the anima mundi; that the collective mind only evolves, learns and becomes more conscious as a product of our individual work on becoming more aware of ourselves. Perhaps our free-will is how conscious we are or how we learn? Could it be that each movement we make in consciousness allows the game to play out in a more evolved way?
There are a number of interlinked elements that have conspired to be causing me to write this article at 4.51am on a Monday morning. One is that my son is currently reading The Hitch Hikers Guide to the Galaxy books and had left The Restaurant at the end of the Universe lying around so I read 3 or 4 chapters before I went to bed. The second is that I am currently wrestling with a small but interesting part of the game of Life called “buying a car”. Like all parts of the game this has some interesting parameters and as usual looks like it should be pretty straightforward until you start to try and master it. I had asked my mind to think about what sort of car I should go for overnight and it did think about this but with the usual twist that the unconscious is so good at. The third was that my son and his friend were playing a new computer game (one where your view is from the perspective of your character). The third is the set of circumstances that caused me to be up and at my computer at 4.51am.
Let me start with the set of circumstances described through the lens of the game of Life:
Unit Nick Oakley-Smith’s engine started into life at around 3.20am. This was odd as the engine had been closed down to recharge the batteries (although it must be admitted that this unit has been having some battery recharge malfunctions over the last months, mostly due to overuse and this means that the battery rarely seems to be fully charged). Why this unit’s engine was on at 3.20 am on the surface appeared to be down to some of the glitches normally associated with this aging 45 year old unit. One was the difficulty this unit has with its nose which has never functioned normally, the second was the unit’s propensity towards an immune system malfunction commonly known as “mild asthma”. One of the software design elements in this particular unit, described in the astrological user guide as “lots of planets in Sagittarius” was about to enthusiastically get going on a tangent but this has been overidden by the “Mars in Capricorn” sub routine which feels it is more important to get on with point and not be longwinded or you will lose everyone.
What made this particular night different was that the landing light was on (something which caused the irritation sub-routine to consider activating in this unit), however this was overriden by a minor on-going malfunction in this unit’s hardware which caused it to go downstairs to the toilet. On doing so it became aware that one of the newer units created by this unit had its engine running. There was an interchange and the younger unit described that there had been a malfunction and it had not been able to continue recharging its batteries. When the older unit went back upstairs it attempted to recharge its batteries but discovered that a download was taking place. It fought valiantly against this and tried to recharge its batteries but to no avail. It did begin to suspect something out of the ordinary when it realised that this download seemed to be coming through very strongly and fully. At this point the player responsible for this unit began to use the unit’s review and meaning functions because it had been alerted that there was an interesting part of the game playing out. It tested this hypothesis by seeking to interact with the consciousness of the larger game. If my engine is still running in 5 mins time at 4.36, I will assume that this download needs to be acted on now rather than waiting till morning it said to itself. At 4.36 the unit’s engine was still running and, ignoring the battery not fully recharged warnings, got up.
The more the player riding in the unit reviewed the situation the more it began to see that the game had conspired to cause its engine to be running. The younger unit had suggested the concept of being active at night (it’s role over it had returned to recharging its batteries!), the chance book had combined with the buying the car sub-game and the computer game to create the framework for the download and it only required a set of circumstances to prompt the unit to start it’s consciousness engine to allow the download to take place. The player could only appreciate the brilliance of this amazingly sophisticated virtual reality game he was playing.
Returning to the vehicle of the game (the first person), I am conscious that we have attempted throughout our history to develop user manuals for this game of Life. Mostly these come in the form of religions and figures who have provided some insights – Christ, Buddha, Lao-Tze, Mohammed but also through Philosophy, Science, homespun wisdom etc, etc.
It was my friend Chrissy Philp who introduced me to the idea that the analogy of a sophisticated virtual reality game might be the best analogy to describe this game of life that we are playing. Reading most of the wisest people I could from many different traditions, both eastern and western, they all seemed to be saying a similar thing: you are in a game but do not be too identified with your character – you are not actually your character. Whilst my son and his friend were playing their game they could do so only through the form of their controllers and within the parameters of the game and the particular view they had on the screen. However, if I had asked them if they existed separately from their characters they would have been able to step back and tell me it was just a game.
For most of us though, in the game of Life, this is very hard to do. Certain very shocking parts of the game seem to prompt this in us on occasion – death, severe injury, major loss. At these points we talk about a change in perspective. This intrigues me because it has become clearer and clearer to me that we are confused about the components of this game. We currently seem to be caught collectively in wrestling with the notion of what we control in the game. There has been some good work done on this by the likes of Stephen Covey in his book “The 7 habits of highly effective people” where he talks about differentiating between what concerns us (but over which we have no control) and those things we control. However, this still begs the question of what we do control. My friend Chrissy described a metaphor she had come up with recently for this. Her view was that if we take the metaphor of a car on a journey for our individual lives then we do not have any choice over the type of car (our bodies and personalities), interestingly her perspective was that we do not have responsibility either for our journey: it is pre-programmed. What we do have responsibility for is the quality of our driving – do we stop if someone else has broken down? how do we respond to a traffic jam?
Most of us feel that certain elements of the game (mostly other people!) are the things that are getting in the way of us playing our individual game because they assume the aim of the individual game is happiness. The more I have examined the game, I have begun to see that we have little control over external factors – other people, the world around us. If tomorrow an out of control bus runs me over, there will be little I can do to stop it. Indeed if there is subsidence and my house falls down and kills me, there will be little I can do about it either. We get very frustrated by this notion that we are not in control, people do not like this one bit; they work very hard to get their control sub-routines to work in ways that they are simply not designed to operate. This usually causes frustration sub-routines to work overtime! Again, most people seem to think that we are in control of ourselves (ie. we can do or be whatever we want) but I am unconvinced by this too. What I have begun to see that we seem to have most control over is our ability to switch perspective. This switching of perspective has a direct link to our motivation and our emotions. When we change perspective it changes our motivation and emotions. I think the element we have real responsibility for is the openness of our hearts and minds. When we switch our perspective we tend to switch from achievement mode (where we are seeking to control the game) to learning mode. The key is that we “see”things differently. Recently scientists have identified the part of the brain that has this ability as being the parietal lobe. We call this changed perspective wisdom. At a recent lecture I attended by Edward de Bono, a renowned guru in creative thinking, someone asked him what wisdom was. He replied that it was having multiple perspectives from which to view life and the situations we encounter. In the Carlos Casteneda books, the “brujo” Don Juan describes this as “seeing” and he says it is the ultimate achievement of a “man of knowledge”.
So going back to user manuals, it is clear that Douglas Adams was highly connected into the Game in describing The Hitch Hikers Guide (since we are all hitch-hiking a ride in these bodies and personalities) for Life, the Universe and Everything and his vision that the Earth was created by Deep Thought a computer which was tasked with providing the Question for the answer to Life the Universe and Everything. Having read Douglas Adams biography, it is sadly clear that his deeply connected writing did not come from a conscious wisdom or understanding but rather he was an unconscious tool of the Universe. One can only appreciate his genius in being this tool. So let us review the user guides we do have. For the purposes of this, I am going to use the car analogy that Chrissy provided (it is limited but analogies seem to be one of the best vehicles (no pun intended) for describing our world in ways others can understand so I crave your indulgence for the limitations).
Most religions do seem to have some valuable guidance on driving the car. Clearly the people around whom they were created seemed to be excellent drivers (Buddha, Christ, Lao-Tze etc.) However, these manuals seem to suffer from the problem that like a manual for driving a car they describe that at times you need to turn left or right, or sometimes put on the brakes and describe some of the situations where this is the case, but they are not dynamic. It is like having a manual for driving the car, rather than a driving instructor with you as you drive who can comment on your actual driving or even to use a more modern analogy, a hologram that can interact with you. So they remain of some value but limited. Over the years they also seem to have lost touch with the changing roads and come up with a lot of prohibitions about what you should and shouldn’t do when driving. They also become overly attached to the style of driving of their particular originator – he wore driving gloves and held the wheel with both hands at all times; there were no motorways in his day so driving on motorways is bad and musn’t be done. You must seek to drive like him and if you are not then your driving is wrong. In the end many of these become so restrictive that they are rejected by many people and would probably be unrecognisable to the fluid drivers whom they were built around who were responding dynamically to the road conditions in front of them. Imagine trying to write a manual which sought to describe every piece of road and circumstance you were going to encounter, it would be impossible and pretty much unusable.
At a meeting yesterday for the Steiner school I run, one of the people most steeped in the school and Steiner tradition was talking about how to help the school and the wider Steiner movement respond to change and begin to question its assumptions. He recognised and advocated that sacred cows were challenged as part of this, yet his conclusion was that we had to go back to Steiner’s teaching and be guided by his perspective and that we musn’t lose that or the school wouldn’t be a Steiner school. This was a trump card, who could argue with that! But it was a sad one too; one I suspect would have frustrated Steiner. I suspect he wanted brilliant drivers not adherents to the Steiner school of driving. As Monty Python brilliantly lampooned in Life of Brian: “Go and be individuals” – “We’ll all be individuals with you Brian”. The identification with the school of driving becomes more important than the driving. The difficulty with many of these religions is that they are also limited by focusing on an individual driver with their subjective perspective (however brilliant) rather than driving and the game itself. The aim becomes driving as much like a particular driver rather than driving as well as you can. Nothing can be changed and there is no recognition this driver might have been wrong in any respect. It is the ultimate sacred cow and sacred cows tend to get in the way when you are trying to drive.
One of the other user manuals currently very much in vogue and, like religions, with much of value to offer is Science. The difficulty with this user manual however is that it is brilliant at describing the component parts of the vehicle in great detail and to some extent mapping the roads and terrain over which we drive but it is very dubious about the fact that a driver exists or even that the roads lead anywhere – they are described as if they are just random features of the landscape so that it is a very erudite and technical tome which is of great value to expert drivers but it doesn’t provide much dynamic information for driving. Indeed it even goes as far as describing the act of driving in great detail but with the caveat that a driver is still a questionable premise and that even if it does exist it is probably just part of the car which we will in time be able to describe. Who knows, it may yet get there with this approach?
There are then various manuals which do not seek to describe how to drive but give you information about what type of car you have and how it is likely to respond and function. This type of information is contained in personality and psychometric tools and in psychology. These are very valuable but in my own experience there is an even more valuable tool which The only tool which provides objective data on the type of car you are driving which is Astrology. Interestingly it is the only one which also provides data on the game/roads as well. This map is extremely valuable, it tells you what is coming up in terms of terrain and how your particular car might respond to it. It is frowned on by the Science user manual because the Science user manual does not accept that there is a driver or even particular roads which lead anywhere. However, I am more interested in driving well than being adhering to only using the Science user manual. My interest is in gleaning as much information about driving well and the terrain and roads from every source I can. I think that makes me eclectic and probably heretical as well!
Whilst astrology is enormously valuable in describing the car and the terrain it does not, however, give instruction on how to drive like religions user manuals do. In this respect the most valuable user guide for driving that I have found is the I-Ching. The reason I think it has an advantage over religions is that it is dynamic. It is like having a hologram driving instructor with you as you drive. Careful here it says, there is a road block, rather than smashing against it repeatedly, you are going to have to reverse and take the diversion. It is like having access to the designers of the game – a short cut to understanding their design and so invaluable for navigating. Unfortunately, however good the user guides and manuals it is still dependent on us to use them effectively – I don’t suppose we will ever get round this work.
Lastly, I think we are developing computers, the internet, films etc. – a technological revolution, not (as most religions suppose) as a corruption which is taking us away from the source of life but rather as a further evolutionary step towards it. We create programmes about the future like Star Trek and other science fiction programmes and it is uncanny how many of the things they invented get translated into our everyday lives. When I was young, my friends and I used to pretend to have mobile communicators like Captain Kirk’s for talking to people far away. Now most people have mobile phones and we take it for granted. We have reality TV programmes and the individuals become stars. We are blurring the edges of the game and seeing that what we imagine with our software becomes hardware. In the past, we used stories, fairy tales and myths which were also valuable guides but now we have hardware which allows our software (the imagination) to take different forms at a virtual level.
Taking the computer game analogy further, I realised recently in coaching someone who was very stuck that our computer games might be describing reality more than we are conscious of. This individual had been going through a very difficult time at work in a small firm. Unbeknownst to them, they had been getting stuck in jealousy, blame and scapegoating and because they were unaware of it, it was still playing out. I had to be very creative to find a way to help them see this. What struck me though was that they described the fact that they could not get out of the situation; they had tried to look for other jobs and whilst others around them had been successful in leaving they could not find anything. I thought about this and then reflected back to the individual that when you are playing a difficult game, no matter how frustrated you get, you cannot unlock the next level until you have completed the current one. Her situation seemed exactly like this. Indeed I have watched that even when people change the external environment by leaving a job, moving etc. they often find after a few months that the game is so cleverly constructed that they realise that they thought they had found a route out but it led back to exactly the same dead end (much as in a fairytale where characters get lost in a forest). It is only through magic (a shift in perspective) that they find a way out.
The Buddhists say that “Life is suffering”. Astrologers would interpret this as Chiron. Chiron is the key. The key to the game is suffering because it prompts us to evolve and unlock new levels of the game. I think (and it is ridiculous hubris to say so but then I have the sun rising in Sagittarius so hubris comes built into my car) that we are unlocking a new level at the moment as part of the move to the age of Aquarius and that there is an individual who is the midwife for this. She is my friend Chrissy Philp and the reason I make such an outrageous claim is for a number of reasons which I have outlined in this article. The scientific community believes we are on the verge of finding a blueprint for the Universe. I think they might be right but sadly not in the way they think or at least they might not be happy with the form as they are certain it must come through the scientific user manual. I think for any blueprint to emerge it would have to synthesize all the current user manuals I have described – religion, science, the I-Ching and astrology otherwise it is incomplete. Someone who is going to do this would have to be a key in some way in order to be the midwife and unlock this. Chrissy began to develop her ideas about the black hole game of life back in the mid to late 1970s. For a description of this work see Chrissy’s book “One Way of Looking at Man”. When I asked Chrissy the timing of her discovery of the black hole game (with a strong suspicion already in my mind) we traced it back to being around 1977. This was the date that the planetoid Chiron was discovered. For astrologers this is significant because with each new planet comes a shift in collective consciousness. Chiron in astrological circles is seen as “the key” and its symbol resembles that of a key. Each new planet is assigned rulership of a sign. Whilst there is some dispute over this it seems clearer and clearer that it is Virgo that is ruled by Chiron. In a survey in the Guardian many, many years ago, the profession most common for those with Virgo was Nursing. I think Chiron is the midwife for collective consciousness becoming incorporated at a personal level, its medium is suffering because this prompts consciousness and evolution. Its orbit moves between Saturn, the last personal planet and Uranus the first collective planet. It is the key to game consciousness becoming conscious among us at a personal level. It is the key to game breaking. Interestingly Saturn-Uranus symbolically represents game-breaking, ie. breaking through to a new level of consciousness and I think Chiron is key to this.
Chrissy’s book The Golden City, describes her discovery of a pattern of the universe embodied (or embedded) in our brains which is described through Astrology, the I-Ching, Science and interestingly Revelation from the Bible. In Revelation the marriage of Heaven and Earth is brought about through a midwife who labours to give birth to it. Despite the alarm bells in this unit’s scepticism sub-routine which points to the sheer preposterousness of the possibility that this midwife could be Chrissy, the intuition sub-drive is pretty clear in thinking it is. Since, if this is true, these ideas are unlikely to take hold for another 1500 years – the time taken for each age to fully flower – the game seems to have any dangers of ego and hubris covered off and, if it is not, then an interesting game of cultism and disillusionment opens up with myriad possibilities for learning so it doesn’t really matter either way!
I also think that the game is getting pretty ridiculous in offering us clues which would cause us to see that it is a game. For instance there has been an absolute explosion in my profession of coaching. Coaches help people play games better. In the latest edition of New Scientist there was an article describing how babies came ready supplied with stem cells in the amniotic fluid which would allow us to repair many of the defects that affect babies. Can we still still refuse to think there is some conscious design at play?
Since setting up my own business eight years and before that whilst working for Ernst & Young I became more and more interested in the art of what I now call “not selling”. During my early career at Ernst & Young, marketing and sales began to be introduced to the firm. This was a breakthrough which came to dominate professional services and many other service sectors. Since I coached many partners I was interested in their reaction to this. Many were resistant, feeling that they had signed up to be Accountants not sales people. But they were brushed aside by the wave of sales and marketing professionals and the exhortations of the senior management of the firm.
For my own part I had reservations about this wave. In particular I had a partner that I coached. He was someone who always took everything very seriously and worked extremely hard at doing what the firm considered important (mainly because of personal ambition!) yet no matter how hard he tried nothing quite went right for him. His black hole game (the archetypal learning pattern of his life) was to constantly try hard and yet always been thrown back or rejected or meet insuperable obstacles. Since sales was now the most important thing in the firm, the highest currency, he was determined to have a bit of the action. He set about selling with absolute determination at every opportunity. He attended all the courses and knew all the technical elements of selling yet he was spectacularly unsuccessful!
I asked him who he thought the most successful “rain makers” were in the organisation and he gave me two names. I said that I was going to go and talk to them because I wanted to find out what they were really doing to be so successful. So I went and spoke to one of them that I knew. I asked him what it was he was doing that made him so successful. At first he talked about building relationships, targeting clients etc. Then I asked him what he really did. He thought for quite a while and then he said that the truth was that he knew three or four people that he genuinely got on very well with as friends and that the work came through that. I asked him about winning a recent very high profile piece of work and he described the fact that he had been given a half hour meeting with the client and had decided that there was nothing he could do in half an hour so decided instead just to find out about him and his business since it would be interesting to find out his approach. He explained that after a fascinating discussion which went on for about 2 hours the client effectively asked him if he would do the work which took him by surprise.
I relayed this to the partner that I was working with and he was amazed. So we set a target for him not to sell for 3 months but just to talk to people about what he was interested in and find out what they were interested in. After 3 months of giving up on sales, he was surprised to find that clients were starting to give him work. His was an interesting story because after many years of trying to do everything he could to be valued and appreciated by the firm with little success he was finally summoned to the management of the firm and told that they had decided that he could either take on a very unappealing part of the firm or they would have to ask him to leave. He came to me and we debated what to do. In the end, I suggested to him that he take the role as an experiment but this time give up entirely on the idea that the firm would ever recognise or value him and just do it because he chose to do it. I did not see him again for a number of years but when we did meet up, he was full of amusement at his circumstances. He explained that he had won a major national prize, he had been head-hunted by various different firms and Ernst & Young had told him he was one of their most valuable partners. The biggest irony for him was that he had genuinely, in his heart, given up on it all, and he recognised that in giving up caring he had put all his effort and energy into supporting and developing the people in his team.
I have tried this approach of giving up as an experiment and just being interested in the work that comes with many people who are pushing and selling for all they are worth and the results have remained remarkably consistent. In my own work for the last eight years, I have adopted the same approach, deliberately setting about not selling anything or even trying to “network” with people. I adopt the approach that Life is deciding who I am going to be working with and I am simply finding out. I notice that work has always kept coming. I have only failed twice early on and in fear tried to contact two people I knew who were in strong positions to give me work and in both cases nothing came of it. Recently someone asked me about this and wanted to know what the work was if it wasn’t selling and I realised it was holding back the fear that would cause us to push.
Since starting my own business, I have helped many others set up theirs and my advice is always the same; namely that the work will come and that unfortunately they will have to trust this. If the work doesn’t come then there is a reason for it. Some have been mistrustful of this and found it impossible not to push and turn their work into a desperate scrabble to sell and push and manipulate, but they also have acknowledged each time that the work they did get wasn’t in anyway connected to any of their pushing.
What I have begun to see is that most organisations are operating on a large but comforting myth. The myth is that they control the work and its flow. They are very uncomfortable accepting the reality that they are not in control so they convince themselves that there must be a correlation between effort in selling and pushing and work won. Even if there is no work won, there is a comfort in feeling that you have made a huge effort. Sadly, this comforting myth is so well established that everyone now believes it. Yet we all hate the results. None of us like being pushed or manipulated into buying yet we all believe that you must push to sell things to people.